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How to Complain About Your Boss

By: Thomas Muller - Updated: 13 Oct 2019 | comments*Discuss
How To Complain About Your Boss

Making a complaint about your boss is risky because unwarranted complaints can jeopardise your working life and even your career, but if your manager is behaving inappropriately then their actions must be confronted.

Dangerous Territory

An exemplary boss is a rare breed. Most employees would be able to find something amiss in the behaviour and abilities of their manager, but are their actions or lack of action serious enough to be grounds for complaint? Making a complaint about a superior is dangerous territory. An ill-considered protest could easily damage your job prospects and make your working life even worse. It is therefore vital that you only complain when you are convinced it is justified.

Reasons for Complaint

Reasons for complaint can take various forms from bad management and job ineptitude to more serious issues like discrimination and bullying.

If your boss is simply unfit for their position, such as through being unwilling to take responsibility, shunning new ideas, discouraging initiative or by just being incompetent and out of their depth, then it can be very difficult to justify raising a complaint. Is their incompetence worth the risk of jeopardising your position and being branded a troublemaker or a whinger?

Act with Care and Sensitivity

If you are adamant that action is required then it is important to tread carefully and act with utmost sensitivity. After all, your boss may be unaware of their own limitations and be trying to do what they think is best. It is an unfortunate reality that many managers are not adequately skilled at managing people.

One course of action is to speak to their superior. Rather than demand a formal meeting to vent your complaint, it is wiser to suggest a casual chat where you can calmly explain that you are not being allowed to perform at the best of your abilities in your current role. Rather than blame your boss, explain how your relationship with them is proving frustrating and restrictive. It may also be worth commenting that their behaviour is not only undermining your own performance but also that of the team.

Rebuilding Working Relationships

If speaking with their superior either has no effect or is not appropriate then it may be worth attempting to make headway on the ground by adopting a more positive and constructive outlook towards you boss. If you have decided that your boss is incompetent you will likely see everything they do in a bad light - perhaps unfairly. Attempt to build bridges by establishing open and friendly communication both with your boss and within your team, and also by adopting a new enthusiasm for your work.

Is it Directed Towards you?

If you feel your boss’ inappropriate behaviour is directed towards you then it is important to take action, however difficult and risky. Intimidation, bullying, verbal violence, sexual harassment, and discrimination due to age, race, religion, sex or sexuality are all serious breaches of professional conduct and must be confronted.

Does it Warrant Complaint?

Before taking action you first must ascertain whether their behaviour actually constitutes wrongful action. In certain instances, particularly with regards to sexual harassment and discrimination, it may be patently clear but there is also a large grey area between bullying and bad management.

To help establish this it may be worth speaking to colleagues to try to find out whether they have been subjected to or witnessed inappropriate behaviour from your boss.

There are independent official bodies that will help you to ascertain whether you have grounds for complaint and offer appropriate advice. If you belong to a union then your representative should be the first port of call, otherwise you can speak to the Citizens Advice Bureau (CAB) or the Human Rights Commission.

Compile Evidence

Unfounded verbal complaints will stand little chance of success and so you need to support your claim with evidence. Keep a detailed record of every incident where your boss behaved inappropriately, including the time and date, what they said or did, any witnesses and how it made you feel. Hard evidence such as emails or recorded conversations are even more valuable.


The next course of action is to confront your boss privately and in a calm and polite manner and explain how their behaviour is making you feel, and ask them to stop. If you feel unable to confront them yourself then you could ask a colleague or union representative to do it on your behalf or express your feelings in writing. It is vital that this communication remains impassive and fact-based.

If this proves unsuccessful then you should raise the issue with their superior. Support your claims with your incident notes and if you have secured the support of witnesses then ask them whether you can name them in the meeting.

If this route also fails to end the problem then you will have to resort to making a formal complaint using your company’s grievance procedure.

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Joca - 16-Sep-19 @ 9:01 PM
Manager states it is my perception and OH states it is my perception.But I have told them I can show them evidence on paper.
jacq - 19-Jul-19 @ 11:04 PM
I am being treated unfairly at work by my mere supervisor who even goes on scaring me of being fired. You may find it funny but it's the truth. I am now on to exposing her with her responses she shares whenever I request for any changes. I am ready to quit this job where we are being treated unfairly. And this should stop please for those taking us. We always be quite and you use our weaknesses to torture us.
Talala - 15-Jun-19 @ 10:40 PM
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Jordy - 27-Mar-19 @ 1:11 PM
While Leaving from the office premises when your boss was wanting you to discuss something and you said that will discuss it later on so it doesn't mean that you have done the commitment of the purpose you were talking about
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Jakelilliott - 30-Aug-18 @ 2:05 AM
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P - 29-Aug-18 @ 3:46 PM
Foxy - Your Question:
Our new supervisor is very strict and is causing me and my colleagues a lot of stress. She constantly changes the work Rota even when we have enough staff, she constantly pulls us up about times to work, for e.g. she said we have to get ready before our shift to start work mn time.she is very restrictive with products we need to use ,(we are housekeepers) she tells us she can put us on weekend Rota without asking when not our shift , he advised to put a grievance in but only 3 of us will do it and I am worried if unsuccessful. I have worked there 7 years

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You cannot be dismissed for putting in a grievance. If you were, you could apply for unfair dismissal. However, if you are unsure about your rights you may wish to give Acas a call, in order to ensure that there can be no repercussions for your actions.
ComplaintExpert - 10-Aug-18 @ 12:01 PM
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Foxy - 7-Aug-18 @ 4:02 PM
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Ro - 9-Mar-18 @ 10:09 PM
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Mfc - 16-Sep-17 @ 8:54 AM
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mel - 16-Aug-17 @ 6:00 PM
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Bijou - 17-May-17 @ 7:45 AM
It's been 2 wks since i was suspended fromcare company. At the meet, I asked how long for and if I would still have a job. was told 2 wks and shes wasnt sure. I said should I look for another job incase she shrugged her shoulders. If not heard anything nor even the letter of complaint from client. My boss went on holiday shortly after suspending me, how can this be right leaving me hanging without pay or knowing where i stand. Care work is so stressful low paid, zero hrs managers bully you to step in when struggling to cover shifts which you more often help out with. I love my job clients staff, but managers make you feel like your walking in glass. They wouldn't be managers bosses &company owners if it wasn't support workers who care enough to help people on a low zero hr wage & stress.Been offered New job totally different line of work, invited tolook round and felt I could breath again.Should I leave instead of waiting for outcome?I love the job but it's making me ill.
Jules - 9-May-17 @ 9:13 PM
It's been 2 wks since i was suspended fromcare company. At the meet, I asked how long for and if I would still have a job. was told 2 wks and shes wasnt sure. I said should I look for another job incase she shrugged her shoulders. If not heard anything nor even the letter of complaint from client. My boss went on holiday shortly after suspending me, how can this be right leaving me hanging without pay or knowing where i stand.
Jules - 9-May-17 @ 8:49 PM
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Frank - 21-Feb-17 @ 11:31 PM
My superviser pulls me up for the smelliest things but never pulls any one else from haveing a day off sick to small jobs to how im drest and wont admit to faults in the pda system in short its always me!!
Bulldog - 14-Jan-17 @ 10:28 AM
My hod in a college i am vry frustrated with him. He is using abuse language infront of all faculties. Cme late nd also distributed uneven load. All time giving threats tht i wil terminate. Princi is also under his influence.if any one complaint thn he ignores. I dont understand wht to do . Many people advice me to file a complaint totrustee or director bt i am cnfuse as it is risk taking for my job.pls suggest me wht should appropriate action i should take
dinu - 18-Nov-16 @ 6:58 PM
Hi I am machine operator and my manager bullying all the time with us he harassment us every day he stop us all the time don't talk with your colleagues don't use light if someone had a back pain even doctor wrote already he not trust then he check and think if he feel pain then why not on the bed all the time and then he telling no jobs for you to many bad habit he have now we are absolutely fed up so we want to off from the job plz answer Thanks
Sunny - 14-Oct-16 @ 10:58 PM
HIto all after long time i am searching for an answer where i have no idea on where to get. I am an Master Degree in IT with 10 years experience in my field currently working asinfrastructure lead for a reputed company in Middle East(Dubai). Company Has got all the positions which are like ( CEO,CIO COO, CFO). My head is CIO as i am in IT. We have several Upgrades on infrastructure and i usually picks up some of the well know companies for having a bid on pricing. Our CIO takes quote from me and gives it to company which are not good in market and cheaper solutionwhen it is about to close and gets 100$ difference. He does not understand the technology in dept as his career road map is on sales not technical sales. First Of all according to me its not good to share the exact price with the vendor as the efforts taken by the other company should be taken in consideration. We in IT all know that the CIO is making money from outside but cannot take proof. How to handle and informthis flaws as i have managed to report this to CFO but he also cannot take any action with out actual proof. How get him caught read handed as his business deals happen under the table. Or should we not bother and just work with a person who has no idea much on IT. I seriously do not want my name to be spoiled in front of the management after he does such activity. Let me know your comments.
John Smith - 24-Jun-16 @ 4:51 AM
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